Are you bored of trying to meet girls in bars and clubs? Maybe it’s time to think outside the bottle.
In light of many guys doing “dry January”, I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to suggest some alternative places to meet girls. Places where alcohol isn’t in the equation.
Check out these 9 unusual places to meet girls, oh and be sure to suggest your own in the comments below.
If you’re looking to be the needle in a haystack when it comes to boy girl ratios, yoga is where it’s at. Flocks of beautiful women frequent yoga classes.
However, trying to pick up women mid pose is like playing with fire…
Yoga is considered a spiritual and therapeutic activity, the last thing any girl wants is some irritating bloke in her ear distracting her from the peace and tranquillity of the session at hand. That in mind, be considerate and wait for the opportune moment to approach, before and after the session would be most advisable.
If yoga is completely new to you, your best bet is to put in a bit of practice at home before hitting the classes. Yoga is an extremely strenuous activity. The last thing you want to do is end up looking like a clumsy fool with zero flexibility.
Your morning commute could become far more entertaining if you put your game to work. However it’s safe to say this is not for the faint hearted…
The subways, buses and trains are jam packed with the opposite sex. Only slight catch is that your efforts to pickup a girl will put you in the spotlight. You’ll have an audience watching your every move.
If you get rejected right there on the spot, it’s going to feel like the longest commute to work ever! If you’re on a subway, it’s best you change carriage at the next stop if you want to avoid the humiliation.
To avoid entertaining nosy strangers, we recommend you use Richard La Ruina’s Stealth Seduction System to approach a girl under the radar and say, “Hey, fancy seeing you here!” or “Hey, how have you been?” This will make it appear like you know the girl already so that the interaction is less like a cold approach.
Following this, whisper in her ear how you didn’t want to arouse suspicion that you were trying to chat her up. Proceed to continue the act of pretending like you’re long lost friends, if it goes well, she’ll play along with it. Girls like playful conversation.
Dog walking in the park
Parks are a location where women feel very comfortable meeting new guys. See why in this infographic about pickup we put together.
When it comes to walks in the park, dogs are the ultimate wingman. Providing you don’t own a Pit Bull or Rottweiler, you’ll get a lot of attention from the girls.
If you’re not fortunate enough to be the proud owner of a dog, either become a dog walker or lend a helping hand to your mates by dog sitting when they’re off on holiday.
And don’t think parks are the only place to meet women, take your dog everywhere! Cafes, restaurants, shopping you name it. The possibilities are endless!
I’ve been hankering after a couple of pugs for a long time. As soon as I free up enough time I’ll be taking my little rascals under my wing everywhere I go. We’ll be somewhat inseparable.
Sports are a tricky one. Ideally you want to meet a girl with similar interests to you, however you’re unlikely to pickup many girls playing rugby.
What about hitting on girls in the gym? Personally I think the gym is a terrible place to get your chat on.
Most of us like to be left alone when working out. A lot of people listen to music through their earphones so any attempt to chat a girl up is a bit of a hassle. Plus, I can’t imagine a sweaty guy with a dumbbell in one hand and phone in the other is the best way to number close.
So then, what sporting activities are good for meeting girls?
Other than yoga (already discussed), tennis and running are probably your best bets.
Joining a tennis club provides great social and the opportunity to play mixed doubles making it ace for picking up women.
The same goes for running clubs – late night jogging groups are a fun way to meet new girls providing you’re not taking up the rear through lack of endurance.
After work classes are a great way to meet new women. What’s a bonus is that they usually require you to sign up to a fixed period of weeks which gives you plenty of time to build rapport with your fellow students.
What classes are good to meet new women? The four standout winners are:
- Language classes
- Cooking courses
- Dance classes
- Arts and crafts classes
Make sure to choose a class you have an actual interest in rather than just any excuse to meet women!
So what I’m saying is, if you sign up to a life drawing class with no interest in art whatsoever, you might get caught out for drawing stick men…
Art Galleries and Museums
Being a culture vulture has it’s perks – not only are many art galleries and museums free, but they also attract a lot of women who often visit these locations unaccompanied.
The secret to picking up girls in art galleries is to use opinion openers. If you can get deep about a certain piece of art or installation and express your opinions to a girl in close proximity, you’re onto a winner.
This method allows for an organic way to start the conversation (providing you know what you’re talking about!).
So start getting cultured! Visiting art galleries and museums is a great end of the weekend activity to prevent the onset of Sunday night blues 😉
Who says the library should be a place of silence?
If you’re looking for the intellectual type, the library is the place to be. But beware – cheesy moves like borrowing the same book as your target and sitting opposite her is unlikely to win her over. But by all means give it a go. Chances are it will make her laugh!
If you want to play cheesy, try using this opener – “Do you know where the quiet section is?”
Festivals bring about a great positive energy. Everyone’s loving the music and having a good time. This makes approaching far easier as girls don’t have their usual guard up like they do in clubs.
However, remember where you are. It’s a festival… girls are here for the music and they don’t want to be separated from their friends.
Make your interactions quick, casual and fun… and don’t forget to dance like a champion. Number close and suggest an after party she can come to with all her friends later.
The wild card of the bunch. Meetup.com is a great site to search groups of people in your local area who share similar interests and (as the website name suggests) meet up.
There are groups for people who speak certain languages, different age groups, hobbies you name it.
I stumbled upon a group called ‘London Haunts & Horrors” whose events involve going on ghost walks, visiting cemeteries after dark, and performing séances. Might have to join…
This is a great way to meet girls you share common interests and because of this can be a good place to find a potential girlfriend. Also this gives you the opportunity to try activities you might never normally think of doing… like visiting a cemetery after dark…
Wrapping it up
Being the New Year and all, one of your resolutions along with learning how to pick up women could be to try out new places to meet women. Hopefully the list above might inspire you!
Bear in mind, activities like dog walking, visiting art galleries, studying in the library and grabbing a coffee all require a different style of game. Daygame.
Daygame is fantastic fun to learn and often far more rewarding than night game. You can learn how to chat up beautiful women by catching them off guard and even arrange instant dates after picking them up in the grocery store!
Got any tips on where to meet women? Suggest your favourite places in the comments below 🙂
Good places in general.
Personally, I feel meetup.com is scrapping at the bottom of the barrel. Every time I go it is a bunch of weirdos. What do you expect from people who have to go online to find people to hangout with.
I’m surprised you didn’t say coffee shops. But I find bookstores are even better. At coffee shops everyone is usually working and it is crowded and possibly loud. Bookstores, however everyone is usually just killing time and it is very relaxing and quiet.
Ed Hudson says
I have to say Meetup.com was a bit of a wildcard! I missed out a few obvious ones like coffee shops because I was trying to think of more alternative / unusual places people might not normally think of. I agree with you, coffee shops are a great venue, especially if you bring your laptop to ‘look like your working’. Gives you an excuse to stay there longer!
Interesting one on bookstores, I’ll have to check them out.
Julie Ferman, Master of Matchmaking says
Book stores are great — Visit the travel section if that’s your passion, or the gardening aisle, or maybe it’s cooking or business or technology that turns you on? Spend some time each week at a book store and keep your eyes wide open, your smile ever-at-the-ready, and practice your flirting skills while you’re there. Flirting is merely asking a question, making a comment, or offering up a compliment… One of my dating coaching clients met her hubby just that way. She was in the travel section, sitting on the floor, immersed in a gorgeous picture book on Italy, and the guy who would be her future husband said to her merely… “Wow, that looks like a place worth visiting…” They did. Together. On their honeymoon. It really is just that easy to meet great people out there in the world. Play with people, everywhere you go, throughout every day, and it will become second nature to you. And then, it’s always a really, really good idea to be privately registered with your local matchmaker, so she can find you when she’s searching for her clients. Start here: http://www.JulieFerman.com 🙂
Ed Hudson says
Wow, some great advice Julie!
Nice story, I might try the same – get a book out on Hawaii and see if anyone comes over and says Hi.
Bookstores seem to be a great place to meet women, far better than a library i.e. flirting is allowed – no one to tell you off for breaking the silence!
This article was pretty terrible and useless, including the racy, quasi-porno pictures associated with all of them. (1) Yoga classes are a terrible place to meet women, it’s the same thing as the gym. Sure, it’s possible but if you get turned down…you’re left with uneventful, awkward moment every time you see that person in your yoga class. So, either quit the deal or deal with the awkwardness. (2) Public transport is scraping at the bottom of the barrel. Not to say there aren’t any decent people, but they will either be out of your age range, racial preference or socioeconomic. If you’re not a shallow privileged individual, then public transport can work since they involve lots of poor people. (3) Approaching a woman walking her dog is as stupid as the picture used here by Ed Huson. (4) Evening classes are probably the only good one Ed Hudson mentioned but who has time and/or money to take Evening Classes after work. (5) Art galleries and museums just reek of white people, in addition the the vast array of blondes in your music festivals pic. (6) The library can be a bit encroaching on the desire for quietness, like people don’t want to talk in a library because it’s not intended to be a place for hooking up. (7) Meetup can work but like the first commenter said…lots of weirdos. I would also add scam artists. (8) Wrapping it up: I would say in a nutshell this entire list is designed for white people only.