Welcome to My Texting Crash Course!
Hey man, Rich James here.
Welcome to my FREE Texting Crash Course!
“Bruce, deep down you may still be that great kid you used to be, but it’s not who you are underneath, it’s what you do that defines you.”
If you’re a fan of Batman you’ll recognise this quote from the movie Batman Begins.
Rachel Dawes says this to Bruce Wayne after he tries to explain to her there’s more to him underneath his billionaire playboy exterior.
Despite Bruce’s efforts to convince her, Rachel’s perception of him remained the same because she didn’t SEE anything more to him (at that point in the movie), just empty words.
“It’s not who you are underneath, it’s what you DO that defines you”.
Rachel’s dating advice was spot on.
There is NO amount of explaining you can do to change a girl’s perception of you.
You will waste your time trying to explain to her that you’re not the guy she thinks you are.
The only way to convince her you’re not the guy she thinks you are is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Using Space To Your Advantage
Remember the video I asked you to watch after you signed up?
Incase you missed it here it is again (it’s CRUCIAL you watch this video before you continue):
Creating space is absolutely PARAMOUNT when a girl has gone cold.
Because only bad things will happen if you give-in to your emotions and text her too soon.
So please take this “no-contact lockdown” seriously. I only want the best for you and believe me I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE that this is the BEST course of action for you. (More on that in a second).
Ceasing contact will make her wonder about you and ANY grain of attraction or feelings towards you she has left will grow and grow the longer you remain a mystery and live your life of awesomeness without needing her.
Remember, her circumstances could change at ANY point. She might change her mind about what she wants, start missing your company and wishing she hadn’t gone cold on you.
I shouldn’t really need to spell this out to you because it’s SO FUCKING OBVIOUS but unfortunately a few guys buckle during this crucial phase and send me emails like this:
“Rich I think I messed up dude. I couldn’t wait any longer cus I worried she might meet someone else and sent her a load of needy texts. She told me I’m scaring her and to stop texting her. Please man I’m so lost please tell me what I should text her to get her crushing in I really don’t want to lose her!!”
You can guess what I told Neil, right?
I told him to STOP TEXTING HER.
Seriously the chances of her meeting someone else in the space of just 1 month are so fucking low they’d put a professional limbo dancer out of business! So please…get that thinking OUT OF YOUR HEAD and do what I told Neil to do next…
Go into “Batman Mode”.
It’s Time to Go Into Batman Mode
It’s time to do what Bruce Wayne did in Batman Begins.
Thrive off your motivation to prove her wrong, disappear and go on your mission.
Why? Because like I said, I know this works from experience…
2 years ago I lost my dream girl to texting. She was this gorgeous gamer girl I met at a Halloween party:
I pushed her away by being overly needy and trying to lock her down…then she sent me this:
My whole world crumbled around me. It wasn’t the first time this had happened to me, but this time I felt different. I felt it was time to do something about my problem.
After searching for answers online I discovered a step by step system for making any “cold” girl obsessed with me.
That system made me realise if I wanted ANY chance with her again I needed to stop texting her and dive head first into Batman mode.
Back then I was as skinny as a rake, so I decided to join a gym and forced myself to eat two extra meals a day.
I focussed all of my attention on building my business and even got my fashionable French friend to help me redesign my wardrobe!
During this time I remained active on social media, posting positive photos of cool shit I was doing like hanging out with my friends (not drunk photos), photos of the gym (but not selfies), photos of me working in my favourite coffee shop and photos of me travelling.
Why did I do this?
I was making her SEE I was unaffected. Living my life to the max. Pursuing my goals and being socially active.
After about a month I noticed she liked a couple of my photos and even commented on the photo below asking “where are you?”
I didn’t reply.
During this time it wasn’t just my muscles that grew. My confidence grew along with them.
I started going out a lot and hooking up with girls. I even organised a couple of random fancy dress parties (something I’d have never done before).
A massive crew showed up for all my events and everyone was talking about it on Facebook.
I didn’t invite her but I knew she’d see it all on my Facebook or from someone else in my social group.
I was having fun, I had more options than ever and I was on top of the world!
I got over her and moved on.
Then after 2 solid months of no contact one night she bumped into me on a night out.
I remember it clearly because I’ve never seen a girl’s jaw drop and eyes widen more than hers.
I was sat at a VIP table in a nightclub surrounded by 15 girls. It was some rich girl’s birthday party my mate had randomly got invited to and apparently one of the girls had begged him to bring me along.
I acknowledged gamer girl with a nod and then turned back to the conversation I was having with birthday girl and her hot friend.
30 minutes later gamer girl texted me this:
“Hey Rich you look great 😃 How are you?”
I was busy hooking up with birthday girl’s hot friend so I replied the next morning.
Since I had nothing to lose – because I was COMPLETELY over gamer girl by then – I wasn’t afraid to flirt and take risks when I texted her back.
One week later she was in my bed, naked and apologising for her past behaviour.
The bottom line is I NEVER would have slept with gamer girl if I was still emotionally invested in her like I was 2 months before.
That’s why I STRONGLY URGE YOU to stick to no-contact lockdown and embrace Batman Mode FULLY.
Here are a few things I recommend you do whilst in no-contact lockdown:
- Hit the gym HARD
- Treat yo’ self to a whole new set of clothes
- Get a new haircut
- Clean your apartment from top to bottom
- Take up a new hobby
- Focus on achieving one of your BIG goals
- Go on a few dates with different women
- Arrange some get togethers with you and your mates
Remember, by vanishing into thin air with absolutely NO RADIO CONTACT you will make her wonder about you, which means it’s highly likely she’ll contact you during this phase wondering what’s up.
What if She Texts Me During No-Contact Lockdown?
If she texts you during no contact lockdown you don’t need to completely ignore her, but you DO need to end the conversation as quickly as possible.
* Reply in a positive manner but DO NOT ask any questions and keep your replies short and snappy
* Mention that you’re in the middle of something or just about to do something
* End the conversation by saying “see you later” or “ttyl” etc.
“I’m great thanks! just walking into the gym ttyl”
“I’m great, hope you’re good too. Just walking into a meeting ttyl”
“Hey I’m great, just walking into a movie ttyl”
Then DO NOT text her again.
It’s as simple as that.
But what if she’s aggressively hunting you down?
If, however, she keeps initiating conversations and sounds genuinely upset you’ve disappeared or stopped talking to her then by all means engage her in conversation.
It’s up to you to judge where she’s at emotionally or how invested she is. It’s not uncommon for a woman to do a complete 180 degree turn around.
As I said before her circumstances could have changed, for example, her friends might have told her you’re cute and she made a mistake.
If she DOESN’T try to engage you in conversation wait until you’ve completed your transformation and totally gotten over her emotionally (you’re Batman).
What if she’s pissed at me for not contacting her?
Sometimes she might even call you out for not texting her.
In this situation it’s best you imply she’s being cute and disqualify yourself from any sort of attachment to her.
Yes, this means you should friend-zone yourself, e.g.
“Come on silly…I thought we agreed you and me will never work out”
“Don’t be silly [nickname] we agreed to just be friends, remember 😛”
“You think too much silly 😛 didn’t we agree to be just friends…”
Ohhh the power of reverse psychology! Your readiness to walk away and completely disqualify yourself from anything sexual will mind fuck the shit out of her.
And reverse psychology like this usually has ONE outcome:
She’ll start regretting or re-thinking her decision to friend-zone you for fear of losing you. This will make her subconsciously start considering you in a sexual light again.
If she tries to engage you in conversation, again, it’s up to you to judge the situation but generally I’d recommend you either end it immediately, e.g. “Just walking into an important meeting ttyl”
And wait until you’re Batman before re-engaging her again.
Or if you’re sensing she’s having serious second thoughts and she’s all over you then push for a meet-up immediately.
You’ll find plenty of ways to turn the heat up in the email training I’ll be sending you over the next few days.
The same system I used whilst in Batman Mode
If you want to get the best results from Batman Mode and return to Gotham as a whole new man I recommend you check out the same system I used during no-contact lockdown.
This system didn’t just help me through the agony of no-contact lockdown… it transformed my dating life forever.
In fact during those 2 months of no-contact lockdown I slept with 7 different women thanks to this system 🙂
The system I’m talking about is a video training course that’ll teach you how to make any “cold” girl obsessed with the idea of sleeping with you and becoming your loving, loyal girlfriend.
Remember the video you watched earlier?
The guy in that video is my buddy, Christian.
That video on “Resetting Her Impression” is Part 17 of Christian’s 21-Part video training course called “The Girlfriend Activation System”.
The Girlfriend Activation System (GFAS) is an online video training program (with over 100,000 members) that teaches you how to activate a girl’s obsession story and turn a “cold” girl into your loving, loyal girlfriend.
Here’s an inside look at some of the other modules that’ll guide you along each step of the dating process to make this girl (or any girl you wish) into your girlfriend:
This is the SAME system I used to turn it all around and sleep with gamer girl after she rejected me.
So if you want guaranteed success from this training I can’t stress enough how CRUCIAL it is you check out this video and discover the system for yourself:
If you’re a fast learner and put this stuff into practice immediately, you’ll start seeing results faster than you might expect:
The Girlfriend Activation System usually costs $147 dollars but right now you can grab hold of it for just $67 with this special link.
Oh and it comes with a 365 day no questions asked money back guarantee, so if it doesn’t work out for you simply request a refund. It’s a no brainier.
How this texting crash course works
I originally wrote this texting crash course as exclusive bonus training for members of The Girlfriend Activation System.
As you watch each video module of GFAS you can refer back to this texting course for texting tips that backup the entirety of Day 1 and Day 2’s teachings. (21 videos in total).
I also strongly recommend you check out the forum within GFAS because it’s really active with over 2,500 threads. The Text Messaging section is VERY handy, so if you’re still stuck with what to text her once you’ve gone through this 2-day course, post your texts in the forum and the community will help you out.
Here’s a screenshot of the forum homepage within the members area:
In the video training from GFAS and this texting course, we’re going to go through each check point in the dating process.
Essentially you’re going to learn how to go from dating her, to sleeping with her, to a happy relationship.
So if you haven’t done so already, get GFAS, login to the system and watch both segments on Masculine Power (Parts 2 & 3).
This will introduce you to the key traits you need to make any woman obsessed with you.
Oh and remember: The text examples in this guide are not yours to just copy and paste. It is merely a guide to show you how to let everything you learn from GFAS flow through your texting.
Texting is a tool to let your masculine power flow through you and make women obsessed with you. It is not a tool for being pretend or trying to be someone you’re not.
WATCH Parts 2 & 3
Christian Hudson – Masculine Power
You’ve just learned how to make a woman feel your masculine power and be overwhelmed by it, how to push boundaries by being dominant, and how to go after what you want.
For example, moving in for a kiss is one of the hardest things to do. The video shows you a dominant way to move in for the first kiss that’ll make her go CRAZY for you.
Remember, a big part of dominance is being willing to risk rejection to get what you want and what you think is right:
You are not afraid to tell people when they’ve crossed the line, you don’t care what other people think of you, and have high expectations of how things should be.
Later, in the section on being a challenge (Part 6), you’ll learn how to send texts that do EXACTLY this, for example, if a girl is late for a date you’ll call her out in a playful way she’ll respect you for and learn to never do again:
To recap, the 6 specific character traits behind true masculine power are:
Dominance – You push to get what you want
Competence – You are competent, responsible and reliable
Challenging – You have high expectations for others
Mysterious – You don’t give away yourself and power (she still has to question if you like her not)
Genuine – You search for and seek the truth in everything around you
Sexual – You bring her and yourself pleasure
As you go through each segment of GFAS I will explain EXACTLY how to let each of these 6 specific character traits flow through your texts, for example, after you watch Jason Capital’s kickass segment on being a challenge (Part 6) you’ll learn how to text her in a way that gets her fighting for your attention because you’re a man who puts his mission first and is a challenge to win over.
Oh and as you’ve just learned, expressing your emotional attraction for a girl is a surefire way to get friend-zoned, so don’t forget to instead express your sexual desire for her (and not be ashamed about it):
The next segment on sexuality will show you exactly how to do this (without being creepy).
After you watch Nick’s video we’ll discuss how you can get sexual with your texting so she sees you in a sexual light again.
REMEMBER: It’s vital you watch each video BEFORE you go through the texting examples because true texting mastery doesn’t come from your thumbs, it comes from within you and GFAS will teach you how to find your true masculine power and let it spill out over text.
WATCH Part 5
Nick Sparks – being Sexual
Mind blowing right?! I think this comment sums it up perfectly:
Getting sexual at its route is nothing more than appreciating the person in front of you (i.e. the way they look; their body).
The key is to not have shame or guilt about your sexual desires and let your natural desire appreciation spill out:
Nick taught you how to take things to a sexual level, without being flagged as creepy or inappropriate. He demonstrated exactly how to turn her on using eye contact, voice tonality and body language next time you’re with her.
You’re going to have so much fun when you put this into practice and watch how animalistic women become around you 😉
Texting is of course a whole different ball game because eye contact and voice tonality are impossible to communicate over text, but the basic principle of how you deliver your desire for her is the same…
Remember what Nick said:
“Can she feel the fact you’re getting turned on by her, or are you in your head worrying about what to say next? Because getting awkward and analytical is never going to work”.
The thought of getting sexual might seem impossible to you at the moment, especially since you feel she’s already lost interest in you, but although you think getting sexual might ruin your chances forever, you’re actually more likely to mess things up for good by NOT making a move.
One of the reasons why she may have become disinterested in you already is because you failed to keep the sexual tension going and slipped into friendly conversation that went nowhere.
It is your job to do something. Even if it backfires she’ll respect you for it and hell, anything is better than getting friend-zoned!
So how do you make her sexuality feel appreciated and take things to a sexual level without coming across creepy or inappropriate over text? How do stay clear of the friend-zone?
Before you take things to a more sexual level – just like Nick explained in the video – you first need to look for Indicators of Interest (IOI’s).
You’ll start seeing these IOI’s after you begin putting everything you learn from GFAS and this 2-day training into practice:
*She starts replying faster, texting you more, and initiating conversations herself
*She asks your opinion on something she likes that might put you off, e.g. “would you totally hate me if I told you I was a Belieber? [Whimper Emoticon]”
*She sends you photos of herself dressed sexy (i.e. she’s qualifying herself to you)
*She tells you she’s been exercising or doing yoga (i.e. she’s great in bed)
After you see any one of these IOI’s you should pull the trigger IMMEDIATELY. By pulling the trigger I mean expressing your sexual desire to see her again and setting up a date 🙂
Sexual innuendos are a great place to start because you can’t get called out for being overly inappropriate, e.g.
The essence of flirtation is communicating with a girl in subtext, i.e. “I’m into you”.
Women have VIVID imaginations, so sexual innuendos will get her head spinning, e.g.
Role playing is also a great way to tap into a woman’s imagination. Take her on a journey and get her to imagine what might happen.
Roleplaying with a Christian Grey theme is a guaranteed way to make a girl’s imagination run wild.
I do this a lot because most girls have read 50 Shades and are obsessed with the fantasy:
We’ll talk more about how to begin role-playing and which the roles you should choose later in Part 9 on how to become Boyfriend Material.
If you ever say something a little risky that could be misinterpreted, simply add an emoticon at the end, e.g.
Remember as Nick said in the video – every girl has different levels of boundaries. Every girl wants different things. You just got to find out what they are. Respect the boundaries and then swim around.
Once you learn how to master this, you’ll start seeing girls naturally take things in a more sexual direction without needing to take too much of a risk. It’s AMAZING when it pays off:
It’s all about push – pull – push – pull. If you step slightly over the line at any point, pull back a little.
The more you start practicing the art of push pull, the better you’ll get at it. She’ll wonder about you and become hooked. We’ll cover more about the power of this in Part 6 on being a challenge where Jason Capital will teach you how to get her fighting for YOUR attention.
The biggest takeaway from this segment is that you MUST escalate sexually at every stage of the dating process. It’s the only way to get her out again – and then when you’re with her – it’s the only way to make sure she’ll want to see you again:
Texting and face to face interactions go hand in hand. If you’re sexual over text and then act plutonic on your date you’ll never get a second shot, because she’ll be massively turned off if you act all different from the cool, sexual guy she was texting.
So when you use this course to get her out, make sure you refer back to Nick’s video before your next date so you know exactly how to escalate things sexually within 2-3 minutes of meeting her. It’s crucial.
WATCH Part 6
Jason Capital – Being a Challenge
Jason just gave you the keys to re-sparking her interest in you. To making her switch back from “cold” to “hot” in a heart beat.
And if you use the genius techniques he shared in the video next time you’re with her, she’ll be all over you and won’t be able to leave you alone.
Women want to work for you. They want a challenge. That’s also precisely why you MUST hold off before texting her again, because you’ll give her a target to work for.
Let’s recap on “A.I.M.” – the core ingredients to making women fight for your attention:
For texting, we’ll focus on Mission and Indifference.
Remember, it is hard wired in her DNA that a real man puts his mission ahead of her. His current life purpose is #1. This is the ultimate challenge she always wants to fight for but never wants to win.
So never make her the centre of your attention. Your mission comes first.
And if you always keep a little part of yourself for her to try and win over, she’ll always have something to work for.
If, for example, she says something like “what are u doing”, make sure your response conveys that you are either having more fun than her, are sociable and if you’re at work, that you are working hard and prioritise work over play (because you’re on your mission.).
Let’s say you’re at work and she says “I’m bored, what are you doing?”
Rather than replying immediately and negatively like every other chump does, e.g. “working on some boring report for my boss. He wants it before 3pm. Urgh. How’s your day?”
Instead…wait until 6pm (or whenever you finish work) and say something that shows you’re a busy man and a leader of men. She will respect you for this, e.g.
If you’re not at work and because you know she’s not doing anything interesting because she’s clearly bored you should go in for the kill:
Later – in the Boyfriend Material and King Game segments – you’ll learn even more advanced ways to get her obsessed with becoming part of your mission and exciting lifestyle.
Actually I’ve recently been dating a girl who’s obsessed with Tony Stark from Iron Man, so I know that if I tell her I can’t meet her because I’m too busy working on something cool she’ll eat it up like candy:
You don’t have to be running your own business to be on a mission. You can be burning the midnight oil at college, hitting the gym hard, learning a new skill, painting a picture, etc. As long as it is a mission with goals then it is a mission.
So think for a moment right now about what your mission is and how you can communicate your passion for it through your texts.
And remember what Jason said: Stay true to your mission. Never apologise for putting it above everything else – especially her.
Indifference is essentially an absence of need.
Don’t be needy, don’t be eager. It shows you have options. Women will assign a certain status level to you. If you put them above you then they will automatically assume you are lower status and therefore not worth their time.
For example, whenever a girl posts a hot photo of herself on Facebook most guys will like it, tell her she looks beautiful and ask something lame like “what’s up?”.
These guys all immediately write themselves off as potential boyfriends because they appear needy, eager and lower status.
To stand out amongst all the other guys in this situation, you will either totally ignore her FB status or playfully tease her about it.
When you challenge her to be more than just a pretty face, she’ll work for your attention. Then if ever you give her attention or a genuine compliment when she’s LEAST expecting it, it will hit her like a tidal wave.
She’ll be swept off her feet with a rush of happiness and dopamine from gaining your attention for the shortest of moments.
To avoid behaving like ALL the other guys chasing her make sure you NEVER:
1. Text back immediately every single time
2. Send photos of yourself and ask for her opinion
3. Send more texts a day than she sends you
4. Overuse emoticons, LOL and hahahaha
5. Flatter her repeatedly (you must tease her instead or get sexual)
7. Send her regular updates on your day
8. Send text monologues (10 line+ rambles)
9. Send her meaningless texts like “how are you?”, “what’s up?”, “Hi”
10. Text her when you’re drunk
11. Ask her if she’s still ok to go on a date with you
Any texts that seek her validation are needy, so never text her for the sole reason of getting a response. Always text her something she’ll actually WANT to respond to, e.g.
If you’re truly non needy and non eager then you will also naturally not be easily impressed. It is more of a challenge for her to get emotion out of you than other guys. You become a challenge to her.
So if she tries to force an emotional reaction you must resist.
Jason demonstrated exactly how to do this when you’re next with her in person – face to face – but how do you do this over text?
Here’s an example of a text a girl might send you to test you. It’s called a shit test, and girls use these to throw you off guard and test your masculine power:
Feel good when she tests you like this, because it means she’s starting to like you!
Women use shit tests to filter out low value men and get to the quality ones.
The best way to deal with this is to either play along, completely ignore it, or simply say “you’re cute :)”.
Women want a rock in a stormy sea. With true indifference, NOTHING can shake you.
From this day forward when you send a text you’ll simply send it and forget it. You’ll no longer check your phone every minute to see if she’s replied, over-read into her texts, or stare at your phone for ages thinking about what to message her.
Because trust me, as soon as you start giving a shit you’ll f*ck it all up. She’ll sense neediness and become massively turned off.
Sure, it takes time to cultivate true indifference, so whenever you feel like your emotions might be getting the best of you simply re-watch Jason’s video to get back in the zone. I do it ALL the time whenever I need a boost!!!
Another way women will test you is to try and make you feel jealous. A classic example is she might tell you she’s “out with friends” or even…”with some guy friends”.
The key here is to – again – remain indifferent. Ignore it and change the subject.
Oh and if you ever think she’s trying to make you jealous or is avoiding you, you must NEVER punish her for it.
Guilt tripping a girl is pure psycho behavior.
Here are some examples of guilt tripping:
*You send an unhappy face if she says she can’t see you
*If she doesn’t reply you ask “are you avoiding me?”
*And the biggest and most destructive guilt trip text of them all: “why aren’t you replying? I hope you’re ok. Text me to let me know where you are, ok? :)”
So if she ever sends a text that makes you feel jealous, or she doesn’t reply to you for a few days, don’t freak out, stay cool and use Jason’s abundance mentality you learned about in the video.
Actually doing the EXACT opposite of guilt tripping a girl and rather removing her of any guilt for not texting back is one of the best ways to re-spark her interest in you. Tomorrow I’ll give you a text that does EXACTLY this.
To finish off, heres a cocky technique that combines Nick’s training on being sexual with Jason’s training on being a challenge.
Remember Jason’s demonstration of how to get a girl fighting for your attention?…Well this technique works kinda like that.
It’s called role reversal because it makes her out to be the sexual aggressor and you the prize she has to work for:
It’s also a great way to sexualise the conversation and frame things so she’s the sexual aggressor:
When you text a girl something like this it will make her jaw drop. Most guys never have the balls or confidence to suggest that THEY are in fact the prize, which is why she’ll love you even more for it.
But a word of caution: do not overuse role reversal. Use it sparingly, because if you go too far it can begin to annoy her.
WATCH Part 7
Alex Allman – being Genuine
Isn’t it AWESOME how GFAS teaches you to be the best version of you rather than changing who you are?
After watching Alex’s video it should be pretty obvious to you why texting isn’t something you can fake, because you can never “trick” a girl into liking you.
That’s why you have to clean your message. Otherwise your own suspicions are reflective on her. i.e. she will read them through you.
So when you next text her, ask yourself this:
Can she feel that you’re being yourself, being genuine, or are you in your head worrying about what to say next and being too “try hard”?
Because getting awkward and analytical is never going to work.
As soon as you start being yourself, and bantering rather than playing tactical “text tennis”, you’ll reach a level where she’s like “this guy is cool” and she’ll WANT to date you.
Women will love you for what you are true to rather than what you are pretending to be, so believe it or not, making fun of yourself can actually make you MORE attractive to women.
Own your nerdy side and let it loose, because when you reveal it you instantly show her you’re not trying to hold onto some “cool guy” image:
This makes you much more human and relatable because you may not know this but every girl secretly thinks she’s a dork/nerd at heart and when you are comfortable showing your dorky side, she’ll become comfortable showing hers.
If you mine if you show me yours 😉
I can’t stress enough how huge this is, because if you manage to unlock the “true” self she’s usually only comfortable revealing around her closest friends then she’ll:
A) Love you for it
B) Feel accelerated comfort with you that makes her think she’s known you forever
One word of caution though, which I must drum home – being yourself does NOT mean revealing your emotions over text. never ever ever EVER let your emotions for her come out over text.
You can show passion, anger, frustration or love for other things and experiences but NOT for her.
Here’s a case study of me revealing my genuine/dorky side over text, which got this girl to open up to me and reveal hers too:
Although she couldn’t actually go on the games arcade date with me that day, later that night she invited me to meet her in a club:
When a girl becomes more vulnerable with you and comfortable in everything they do with you, you’ll be on a one way ticket to girlfriend land – just remember to keep the sexual tension alive so you don’t get friend zoned!
When you can be your sexually true self, admit to your desires and step into your role as a leader, you will become soothing to be around.
Watch Part 8
David Wygant – being Dominant
As you’ve just learned, it is your role as a man to be dominant. Women crave dominance and are looking for dominance from the second you meet them – not passiveness.
When texting, words like “maybe” instantly tell her she’s in control and are a HUGE turn off.
They show you’re not confident in yourself, you’re not a leader of men and perhaps don’t even deserve to hang out with her.
So replace passive words and phrases like “maybe”, “perhaps”, “possibly”, “would you like to?” etc., with assertive, masculine language that exhibits the leadership qualities women look for in men.
Use the word “listen” in your texts. Listen, let’s, you should, we’re going to, you’re coming to, etc:
YOU decide when and where the date is going to go down, because remember, you’re a busy man (with a mission).
Show control. Allow her to feel safe in your pressence. Drive the car. Set the plans.
Never ask her to suggest something or vaguely ask her if she’s free.
Girls avoid awkward situations at all costs, so if you send a text like “are you free tomorrow night?” she either won’t reply or simply tell you she’s busy. For all she knows you might ask her to meet your parents!!
Instead, paint a clear picture of what she’s signing up to – or even better – make it an event you’re already going to and suggest she tags along:
Don’t stress about whether she’s free or not because if she wants to see you she’ll shuffle things around, and if she genuinely can’t make it she’ll suggest an alternative time:
Let dominance flow through all your text interactions – not just in texts that set up dates.
Because remember, as a dominant man you:
*Are willing to risk rejection to get what you want and what you think is right
*Have high expectations of what things should be
This means you’re not afraid to disagree with girls or call them out for doing something wrong.
In the first part of this texting course I gave you an example of a text that does exactly this. It’s a text you send if a girl is late for a date:
This text risks rejection and also shows you have high expectations of what things should be. It’s a real slam dunk for ticking all the boxes of how a high value, dominant man would react in such a situation.
Just remember: whenever you say something direct that disagrees with a girl or calls her out, always add a playful emoticon at the end to make sure she doesn’t misinterpret it as you just being an asshole.
It’s all about balancing dominance with tenderness. In this “late for a date” situation, after she arrives you can then tease her that she’ll have to make it up to you on the date somehow. She’ll likely reward you later with a kiss 😛
Watch Part 9
Christian Hudson – Boyfriend Material
You’ve just learned how to act around girls if you want them to become obsessed with you, look up to you and crave the idea of joining your exciting adventure in life.
If you’re serious about becoming boyfriend material, you simply MUST be the guy who pulls her out of her mundane life by creating emotions and excitement she cannot find from anyone else:
You need to stand out.
The video demonstrations taught you exactly how to do this, but now let’s focus a little more on how it’s done with texting. Because girls need a guy who can push their buttons no matter where he is:
In Part 4 on being sexual I recommended role playing as an great way to provide her with thrill and excitement – the key to becoming boyfriend material.
Girls have vivid imaginations, so they LOVE role playing.
Apart from being easy to take things into a sexual direction, roleplaying also allows you to build “memories” with a girl, even if they’re only fantasy or you’re not actually with her at the time.
The more you make the fantasy sound real, the more she can imagine herself experiencing it with you, and the more “real” the memory of it will become.
Pick roles where she is the one looking up to you or chasing you:
– Teacher and Student
– Husband and Wife (or exes)
– Bonnie and Clyde (bank robbery)
– Stalker and Victim (she’s the one stalking you)
Here’s an example of role playing in action:
Roleplaying helps deepen your connection and when you do meet up it gives you your own fun, joint conspiracy you can talk about together in person.
How to Answer Her Questions
Often times, girls will ask you questions over text to assess if you’re boyfriend material or not.
If she asks about common interests this is great, because it means she’s interested in you…but…it can also be easy to fall into idle chit-chat and get friend-zoned, which is something you must avoid at all costs.
To stand out as boyfriend material you will:
A) Make an instant connection
B) Help her escape from the mundane thing she’s doing at the time
Let’s say she asks:
The wrong way to reply would be to continue the conversation, e.g. “Yeah I’m HUGE fan! What did you think of the royal wedding scene?”.
That text does NOTHING to distinguish yourself as boyfriend material.
But this text triggers emotion, establishes a connection, turns things sexual AND sets up a spontaneous date in one slam dunk:
Note: if you don’t watch Game of Thrones, Jaime and Cersei are brother and sister but have an incestuous relationship. Basically it’s a pretty kinky text 😉
Girls LOVE the thrill of spontaneity. And when you get better at spotting when a girl is bored, you’ll instantly know when to go for a spontaneous date:
You might think it’s risky, but remember Jason’s training on indifference and abundance mentality. The less you give a sh*t, the more attractive you’ll become.
(Re-watch Jason’s training whenever you catch yourself giving a shit.)
You are different to all the other guys in her phone book. You give her excitement and escape from the usual boring chat she’s used to and aren’t afraid to go for the kill because you’re a man who gets what he wants.
You are not only now challenging, indifferent and dominant, but you are also spontaneous, thrilling to be around and have private inside jokes with her.
Another powerful way to create an accelerated sense of intimacy – that’s usually reserved for two people who know each other well – is by using nicknames.
Nicknames create comfort, trust and a playful connection. Above all, they put a big smile on her face and she’ll subconsciously feel like she’s known you for ages.
Those who create nicknames for others are usually the ones directing the interaction:
Depending on what stage and the type of conversation you are having through text with a woman determines what type of nickname to use.
For example, I discovered that this girl liked strawberries:
So later, when it was time to finish the interaction by telling her I had to go (on my mission) I signed off by nicknaming her “Miss Strawberry Lover”:
Nothing beats a fun nickname delivered at the right time!
Make up a nickname that’s unique for her and it’ll instantly change the way she responds to your texts in the future each time you use it.
In tomorrow’s video training you’ll discover even more powerful ways to make her obsessed with becoming part of your life. This’ll be in the King Game segment (Part 14).
Now it’s time to see how everything ties up. The step by step process you can follow to turn any girl you want into your loving, loyal girlfriend.
WATCH Part 11
Christian Hudson – The Obsession Story
Now watch the video on the Obsession Story to learn how everything ties together.
If you want to make this girl or any girl your girlfriend you’ll need to know how each piece of the puzzle fits into place.
To recap, the Obsession Story is broken down into 4 stages:
Impression – from meeting her to getting her number
Here you make sure you are the only one occupying space in her mind and get her to start opening up about her life.
Inspection – from texting to sex.
This is when boyfriend value starts to come out. She’ll ask “am i going to give myself to this man?” and open her legs for you.
Intimacy – from sex to relationship.
The 2-6 week period when you are sleeping with her but you haven’t put a label on it yet. The goal of this phase is an emotional phase. One where she opens her heart to you.
Investment – How invested in the relationship is she?
We invest in something we value. You value an iphone so you invest in it. A good relationship is one where you are invested equally in each other.
Discover Day 2 (Parts 12 to 21) on the Next Page
On the next page you’ll learn how to reset her impression of you and if you haven’t done so already – start putting everything you’ve learned from GFAS into practice!
On the next page you’ll learn:
*How to compliment her by showing your sexual appreciation for her.
*The art of using photos to capture her imagination and make her want to join your exciting adventure in life.
*How to strike up conversation when you’re stuck for words.
*How to reset her impression of you, wipe the slate clean and start afresh.
*How to give her the gift of wondering about you and flirt with the future.
*How to confirm the first date and get her excited about it.
*How to setup a social date (where she meets your friends).
*How to set up a sex date / booty call.
See you there,