Texting Crash Course – Day 2
Hey, Rich James here.
I’m sure you can’t wait to get started, so let’s dive straight in!
Watch the introduction to Day 2 which recaps the content you learned in Day 1.
Now watch Part 13 on Impression to get a brief overview of how to give women genuine compliments, make a strong impression and how to utilise the fire inside you:
WATCH Part 13
When texting, the best way to compliment her is to show your sexual appreciation for her, e.g.
Sexualising the conversation is CRUCIAL to rekindling her sexual interest in you, especially if you’ve already been friend-zoned.
After you’ve watched those two videos, jump straight into Part 14, because this part will prepare you for after she texts back and you start afresh at putting yourself in the best possible light where your life becomes something she WANTS to be a part of.
Watch Part 14
Developing King Game is fundamental if you want girls to WANT to become part of your life.
As you now know, it’s not just about doing cool things with cool friends, it’s about your status and role within the group.
You need to be the one in the driving seat. The leader.
You’ve learned how to act around your friends to make this happen next time you invite a girl to join a group activity, but how do you plaster King Game all over the screen of her phone?
The answer is simple: Photos.
Use dating apps like Tinder and social networks like Facebook and Instagram to your advantage.
The app I use to communicate with girls allows me to post blog updates in a feed that all my contacts can see:
Share pictures that make you look like the life of the party, the centre of attention and the leader of your social group:
Pictures with cute girls:
And sometimes pictures that don’t tell the whole story and make her wonder what you’re up to:
The more exciting and exotic your lifestyle looks the better!!!
Watch Part 15
Nick Sparks – Impression
Although this segment by Nick Sparks on Impression is focussed on approaching new women, it’s important you watch it because it contains some solid demonstrations on how you should act around her or any woman you’re attracted to next time you’re with her.
You’ll learn how to get more comfortable at initiating conversations (especially in social scenes) and how your presence, voice and most importantly – attention – is vital for keeping women hooked in conversation with you.
Take note of what Nick says about staying focused, clearing out your head and everything in your periphery.
Next time you use these techniques around women you’ll see a dramatic difference in the way they respond.
Watch Part 16
What to say
As you’ve just learned, getting girls to open up about themselves by asking the right questions is absolutely key if you want her to become more comfortable around you and start seeing you as boyfriend material.
You’ve learned a number of powerful ways to do this face-to-face (especially by focussing on the spontaneous things she’s done) but how do you get similar results over text?
Remember in the video Christian said “do not talk for the sake of talking, to keep the conversation going.”
Well I can’t stress enough how important that piece of advice is, because when texting her you need to avoid long text conversations like the plague.
You should instead only ever text with one purpose – and that purpose is to set up a date.
Nobody enjoys 100 questions over text, or long drawn out conversations that go nowhere.
And the more texts you send, the more chances you have of screwing things up, creating misunderstandings, or straight up p*ssing her off.
Save your desire to get to know more about her for the date and keep your texts brief and to the point.
If it’s been a while since you last texted each other, or you simply want to reengage her in a fun way (with the purpose of setting up a date shortly after she responds) then I’m going to share two techniques that’ll get the conversation flowing in a direction that allows you to set the stage for a date.
The first technique is where you playfully guess what she’s doing at the time.
Technique #1: Let me guess…
Rather than being boring and asking “what are you doing?”, you playfully guess that she’s doing something nice for you:
Technique #2: The half finished story
Nothing makes a person more intrigued than what someone else thinks about their personality.
So another great way to reengage the conversation is to make a half finished statement about her that requires her response to get the whole package, e.g.
If she wants to know the answer she has to reply for the rest!
After you reengage her using either of these two techniques, you can then continue the conversation in a playful way, work out if she’s free or not, then a couple of hours later pitch the date like you only just thought of it.
In the next segment – Part 17 – you’ll be able to decide which kind of date is best for your situation based on how the interaction has gone so far and how much comfort you need to rebuild.
Because choosing the right social setting for your date after you reengage her is VITAL if you want to guarantee she doesn’t flake again.
So watch the video on Resetting Impression now and think carefully about how you’ll reengage her.
Watch Part 17
Before we look at how to reset her impression of you when texting, I want to congratulate you for committing yourself to this course – For not skipping ahead of the material and for investing in the Girlfriend Activation System.
You’ve earned what’s going to happen next…and mark my words…it’s going to happen sooner than you think.
Because once you start putting everything you’ve learned from GFAS into practice, your old life is going to become unrecognisable and that special girl you’re after will rue the day she ever gave up on you.
And it’s not just women who’ll start responding to you differently. Everybody will. Opportunities will open up, people will follow you, do things for you, and look at YOU to lead the way.
There’s a reason why I left this segment on “Resetting Impression” for Day 2. Because if I’d given it to you on Day 1 – before GFAS taught you that dating is a skill you can master – you’d have probably skipped right to this segment, copied my texts and thought that would be enough to fix everything.
But not you. You realised it doesn’t work like that.
You didn’t cut corners and took action.
So now I’d like to ask you something:
How bothered are you now about losing this girl?
Now that you know how to meet and land any girl you like, do you even care if this one girl slips away?
I thought not 😉
You’re a friggin badass now!
So in the spirit of being a badass, let’s get this girl out on a date and see what happens…
Because now is the time where everything you’ve learned from The Girlfriend Activation System is going to fall into place.
In the video you just watched you learned that almost giving up on trying to get her back is the first step to getting her back.
That’s why I recommended it’s best to wait at least two days before texting her again.
Because it’s actually better you hold off a little longer. To create space – not change who you are – just become less obtainable.
If she’s used to seeing you a lot or spending time with you, or receiving texts from you, then reset the frame.
Has it been a few days since she last texted you? If so then I recommend you use the “It’s Not Your Fault” technique I’m about to reveal in a moment.
Or perhaps you’ve still been texting a little and the conversation simply went stale, or she flaked a date request? If that’s the case then I’d recommend you use a technique from Part 16 on “What to Say”.
But because I don’t know your full situation, after watching all the training videos from GFAS and getting a clear idea of where you stand and what you need to do, it is now YOUR responsibility to assess the situation and choose which path you want to take.
Resetting her impression of you requires making her realise that you are in fact NOT needy, that her idea about you is WRONG, that you are an AWESOME guy who has other things going on in his life and that she is NOT the centre of your attention.
The It’s Not Your Fault Technique
The It’s Not Your Fault Technique allows you to set the stage for re-negotiating the terms of your relationship, so you can follow up with texts that reignite her interest in you and move towards a date.
Simply put – It wipes the slate clean.
It works because it:
1. Removes her nerves about texting you
2. Assumes she’s still into you
3. Relieves her of any guilt for not texting back
4. Creates positive emotions
The “It’s Not Your Fault” Technique is Broken Into 3 Parts.
Once you understand the parts, you can make up your own personal, unique texts that will have her rushing to text you back.
Ready to see how it works? I thought so.
1. Well it is obvious…
Start off by creating a funny reason she hasn’t been able to text you back.
As you will see in a second, it can be anything from becoming a mermaid to being abducted by aliens.
2. The creative middle
Next you add in a funny / teasing event or part of the situation that happened during the event that is clearly keeping her from texting you back.
It can be something you hope happened to her or something you hope didn’t happen to her. Or it can be something she had to do or is in the middle of doing.
For example, if it was joining the circus it could have to do with her having to shovel elephant poop or teaching penguins to do cartwheels.
3. The hook
Now we come to the part where you compel her to respond.
Simply tell her that when she is finished with whatever she is doing, get’s back, escapes, etc, to text you back.
I like to add that I have a question for her or I have a fun idea at the end.
This is just a little extra something that encourages her even more to respond by piquing her curiosity. It is very powerful.
I usually just make up a question if she asks. Often it is seeding an invite to meeting up that week.
Are you ready to see what this looks like all put together?
Here’s me using the technique on a girl who’d gone cold for a few days after a fancy dress party.
She was dressed as a pirate when I met her, so this was a no-brainer:
After she replied I continued role-playing, flipped the frame using Jason Capitol’s advice from Part 6, then got her on a date a couple of days later.
The more unique and specific you make this text, the more positive of a response you’ll get.
For example, Dan (a course member) wanted to get a girl he’d hooked up with (Lucy) on a sailing week texting back and out on a date.
At one point during the sailing week a “weird” Polish guy helped Lucy and a friend get out of a sand bank, so he sent her this:
Here’s what happened:
21:53 Dan: *Polish well-its-obvious*
22:32 Lucy: hahahahahahahha
22:32 Lucy: no didn’t sail today
22:32 Lucy: unfortunately not
22:32 Lucy: the wind is wayy to hard now
22:32 Lucy: wind force/power 6
Dan followed up by sexualising the conversation and later invited Lucy round for dinner at his place.
On the date he used Christian’s “Sex Date” routine (Part 21) that concluded his date with the best possible outcome…if you know what I mean 😉
That’s the thing – if you stick to everything GFAS teaches in your follow up you’re guaranteed to succeed. That’s why GFAS comes with a 1 year full money back guarantee.
So after you get her LOL’ing again and opening up to you, you should be able to spot when the conversation has progressed to a point where it’s time to pull the trigger and suggest a date (like you only just thought of it).
If you get stuck at ANY point, simply start a new thread in the Text Messaging forum and let the community help you out:
Just remember, the longer it takes you to get her out, the more of a low pressure date you need to suggest. For example, if she has already flaked twice, you should only now suggest a social date where she joins you and a mixed group of friends who are already out somewhere.
It’s up to you to judge where you currently stand and decide which setting she’ll most likely say “YES” to.
As a general rule, if you met a girl in the daytime you should suggest a daytime date in a similar environment to where you met.
For example, an afternoon coffee has low investment from both sides and you both know that if the date sucks you can bail early.
But if the date does go well, the up-sell to grab dinner later or watch a movie will be much easier since she’s already out with you.
Later I’ll give you some brief examples of the kind of texts you’ll send to set up each of these different date situations:
Part 19 – First Date
Part 20 – Social Date
Part 21 – Sex Date
But before we get to that, watch Part 18 to learn the most crazy important rule in the dating game:
Watch Part 18
You’ve just learned how to implement the most important rule in the dating game: Giving her the gift of wondering about you.
When it comes to texting, to make her wonder about you, you’ll want to send messages that:
A) Let her know you have other options
B) Shows her you’re sociable
C) And that she is not the only girl you know
For example, this text will get her head spinning:
“I just met your twin”
Simple, yet sooooo effective 😉
Here’s another example of a text you can send if a girl bails on a social date with you and a group of friends:
“Stephanie was disappointed she couldn’t meet you last night”.
Another way to make her wonder about you is to live in moment and flirt with the future. Never try to lock down future dates, or confirm the future, rather make plans / dreams about what you should do together.
Adding the word “sometime” to your texts is the easiest way to achieve this:
If you keep her wondering like this then you’ll often find that since she’s been imagining how much fun going to the zoo or playing tennis together sounds, she’ll actually suggest you do it next time. Then all you need to do is lock down the time and place 😉 This is powerful stuff.
Ok, so now you have almost reached the end of your training. You are almost ready to put everything you’ve learned from GFAS into action.
In the next three mind blowing segments, Christian will tell you exactly what to do in each date situation to not just get her falling head over heels for you, but falling straight into your bed 😛
Watch Part 19
The first date
You now know what you need to do on your first date to make it a guaranteed success.
Christian really over delivered in this video, especially his tips on how to build sexual tension, when to take her hand, kiss her and how to test the waters to see what she wants at the end of the date.
And if you DO get her home…you’ll make it seem like you’re the one who’s being chased for sex! Nice 😛
Also pay attention to what Christian said about balancing compliments with teasing and the topics you should focus on to get her opening up. It’s crucial you don’t overdo your compliments or stray into mood killing topics.
So with your date game plan ready, all you need to do now is pitch it!
Make sure the way you pitch the date sounds like a natural progression from the conversation you were having before.
Do you remember “Miss Strawberry Lover” from earlier?
Well after discovering her love of all things strawberry, I then set up a date saying we’d have strawberries and wine at my place:
On the day of your date, if you want to confirm she’s still coming, DO NOT ask her, because that displays neediness.
Instead, simply say:
Get excited for our date.
Oh and remember what you need to send her if she’s running late 😉 Here’s a reminder:
Watch Part 20
The Social date
This part ties in perfectly with what you learned in the video on King Game (Part 14).
You’ll simply blow her away if you implement this correctly because as you know, girls LOVE dominance and leadership skills.
Just make sure you don’t overwhelm her when you give her the “girlfriend experience” you learned about and in the video and she’ll love every minute of it.
When inviting a girl to an event over text, it’s a good idea to first test the water and flirt with the future about a possible event in the works:
“We might all be going to the big game on this night, we might have a spare place, I’ll let you know”.
This way, if she’s not up for it and since you haven’t locked anything down, it gives her the chance to opt out without either of you feeling embarrassed.
Let’s say you ran a quiz evening past her and she showed interest:
On the morning of the event or day before, to lock it down you can simply say:
Quiz evening is happening, etc.
If she genuinely can’t make it out or gives you an excuse here’s how to continue making her question why the hell she’s not hanging out with you…
First off, call her a…
You can totally get away with this if you’ve created a playful enough vibe.
On the night you proposed the meet up DO NOT text her anything like “shame you couldn’t make it” or “wish you were here” etc.
Don’t even text her the next day. If she’s interested in how the night went she’ll probably ask you herself.
If she does ask you, implement that powerful rule you learned about in Part 18 – make her wonder about you:
Watch Part 21
The Sex date
After watching that you’re probably itching to get down to the mall and stock up on candles!!!
I actually especially bought some bluetooth speakers that can be activated by my phone, so as soon as I walk a girl though my front door I can flip the switch and start the tunes.
If you follow every tiny detail right from getting her to take her shoes off to popping the cork, you’ll be amazed by how crazy Christian’s step by step road map to sex works. Try it for yourself and see what happens 😉
The sex date, needs to be set up carefully so you gradually drop questions in conversation, e.g. do you like champagne? strawberries, etc. Then Christian will tell you exactly how to step by step initiate the sex date.
Watch Part 22
If you stick to everything you’ve learned from GFAS it won’t be long before you’ll be using these tips from the video to “seal the deal” and make your relationship official.
Just to be sure you know how this works with texting, let’s talk about the importance of matching her level of investment over text.
50/50 is the ideal balance when both you and her equally want things to work out.
As soon as things go 60/40 you’re in danger of it fast becoming 70/30, 80/20, 90/10 and before you know it 100/0.
No one wants to be smothered and you’ll risk losing her if you give her the impression that you need her more than she needs you.
As a general rule, the person writing the most is the person most invested in the interaction, so…
If she sends 4 texts a day, send 4 texts or less.
If she sends you a long message, reply with a slightly shorter one back.
Stick to these rules and you’ll be on a one way ticket to girlfriend land!
Watch Part 22
Even if things don’t work out with this one particular girl, after completing this course, going through all the videos and the texting training, practising it and trying it out in your day to day life, you are guaranteed to get a gorgeous girlfriend.
Here’s to you, my friend 🙂